Once you read my story, you will see that I am very much like you.
Four years ago, I found myself suddenly separated, in pain, confused and alone on my way to becoming divorced. After 21 years of "toxic" marriage which I tried to balance with holistic lifestyle, yoga and prayer — I looked deep in the mirror, pierced my soul into action and took every moment during my healing process to complete my past.
I married my husband to get my father’s approval and attention. Although I loved my ex-husband, I was not emotionally mature enough to begin with to create intimacy or a strong foundation for lasting love. My ex-husband and I created behavior patterns that developed into dysfunction and that dysfunction was very hard to undo, like most people of divorce.
After we had children our problems magnified and as a result, our children developed learned behaviors and conditioning as well. When our children were both under three years old, Hurricane Andrew hit our house and business and we had to start over.
With underlying emotions of fear and uncertainty we began to rebuild our lives and the dysfunction drove me to sacred devotion to god through prayer, yoga, meditation, metaphysics and holistic living.
Balancing my emotions, my career in wealth development & management, my personal devotion to balance, the children & family and supporting a financially demanding business had taken its toll in 2003. My suffering had led me into a wheelchair and I had not known what to do with myself until one day in 2005 when we were suddenly separated. Although I had not known at the time that I would end up divorcing him, my heart was calling out for peace and I was willing to finally listen and forgive all the trespasses upon myself.
Ever since that time, I was led into a perpetual search for closure from the past until I gave myself the gift of peace in my heart and “completeness” with my ex-husband. Our children, who were vulnerable teenagers at the time of our separation, were lead through the muck of my own illusions. It was tumultuous, to put it mildly, yet I could not have asked for a better way to send them off into the world of adulthood. Not only did my ex-husband co-create two beautiful children with me but he gave me experiences to grow from. I am able to live in a different world and I have great tools to keep and nourish my “peaceful heart”.